Thinking of Proposing? Read These Helpful Tips First!


By: Tracey Manailescu

Thinking of Proposing? Read These Helpful Tips First!


You have finally found “the one” and you are ready to pop the question. Before you do, take some time to consider the consequences of your romantic gesture. This is a really, really BIG step.  Heck, this is quite possibly, the person that you will spend the rest of your life with.

When my husband proposed to me, it was in the front seat of our car in front of the Eaton’s Centre, with my sister in the back seat.  Oh, yes she was…Between him looking back and forth between her and I for encouragement, he got it done. We were both in tears and giggling like crazy(he and I, not my sister). Wait a minute.  Did I mention that just before this, we went to pick out my ring together (all three of us)? Now it might not sound like the most romantic proposal in the world, but to me it was perfect!  I got the ring I was crazy about and my favourite people were right there with me when it happened. You see, my sister is ALWAYS there for the big stuff.  Always will be.  Why should this have been any different?

Here are some things that you may want to consider: engage

Are You Sure That She/He Wants to Marry You Back? Really.  I am so serious about this.  There would be nothing more humiliating then spending a ton of money on an engagement ring, setting the stage to perfection, and then you get that deer-in-the-headlights look from the love of your life as she/he flubs there way through a “let me think about it” response.

  • Consider the length of time that you have been in a serious and committed relationship. Does it seem like the next logical step?
  • Have you discussed a future together (and not just when you are in bed or drinking a bottle or two of wine)?

Don’t Do It Just Because You Think it is What She/he Wants I have watched so many stupid movies and TV shows where the goon of a guy says, “You deserve this.  You have put up with a lot from me over the years.” Huh?  Are you even kidding me right now? On what planet does that make someone feel special? When you ask someone to marry you it should be because you want to spend the rest of your lie with them, and can’t imagine your life without them. This is not the time to wing it. Think about what you are going to say, and how to say it. engagement

Are You Sure That She is Going to Love the Ring? This is working off of the assumption that you actually have bought an engagement ring.  Do not even consider asking her to marry you without a ring, please. This is what she is going to be showing all of her friends and family. Do you know the style that she wants? Do you know the shape of the stone that she wants? Is it round, oval, pear, princess, heart, marquise, asscher, emerald or cushion shaped? What size is her ring finger? That would be awful to have such a beautiful proposal and then she can’t even wear the ring until it gets sized.  Ask her friends, ask her family, or borrow or measure another ring that she wears to find out the right size. Does she want a show stopper ring or a demure and tasteful sized one?  Does she want a diamond or a coloured gem stone? Why not go window shopping a few times? As I mentioned above, I picked out my engagement ring.  I love my pear-shaped engagement ring, but I always have said that I would like to get a bigger pear-shaped stone in a few years.  Well, it has been 17 years and I am still waiting!

Make it Romantic Make it memorable and special. This is not the time to half-ass anything. Tell her/him how you feel, make it sincere and from the heart. This is the moment when you can get down on bended knee and pour out your heart.

P.S. Don’t put the ring in a piece of food or drink.  She can swallow it or worse, choke on it.