How to Write a Great Thank You Card

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By: Tracey Manailescu of Tracey M Events

There’s just something about a hand-written thank you card or letter. It’s just…special.  It’s thoughtful, it’s much more personal, and it’s something worth keeping. We are so used to getting bills, so it makes it something sweet to get a heartfelt message of appreciation.

Who should get a hand-written thank you card aside from those who gave you a gift?  Anyone who made you feel special, who was thoughtful and kind to you, anyone who helped you out during the wedding planning process, any vendors that stood out to you, and any family and friends that went above and beyond.


I would like to share some tips with you for writing them out so they have a personal touch to them (and so they don’t sound the same as the other fifty that you wrote previously):

  1. Address it to the gift givers personally. That means use their first names please. It also means that you or your spouse need to be the ones to write the thank you cards.  It doesn’t matter who has the best hand writing, it just matters that you do it.
  2. Start by saying thank you and acknowledge what the gift actually was. If it is monetary, then just say thanks for the generous gift, or something similar.
  3. Mention how you are going to use the gift.
  4. Let them know how much it meant for you to see them at the shower or wedding, and how you appreciate their gift, again.
  5. Sign it from both you, and your spouse.

Below are some suggestions to make writing them, and keeping track of them easier:

  1. Ensure you have the gift giver’s correct spelling of their name and mailing address.
  2. Make sure that someone has written down what the gift was that you received.  If this is a gift giving occasion like a wedding shower, then have your sister, cousin, maid of honour, etc. sit beside you, and have them write what each gift was on the card it came with. Easy peasy, right? This is something that we do in our family and it really helps!
  3. Write down the name, address and phone number of the gift giver (and immediate family members) into your wedding planning files.  This could be a binder, file on your computer, or a wedding planning site. This way you have them for the wedding, and later on for sending out holiday cards, etc.

Did you know that there are actually etiquette rules for writing wedding related thank you cards?

  1. Thank you cards for showers should be sent out as soon as possible after the bridal shower. If you are getting married soon then there is just so many other things to think about and do, that it may get put aside. Get them done as soon as possible so people feel appreciated, and so you don’t forget to do them.
  2. Thank you cards should be sent out within three months of receiving a wedding gift.  For sure it sounds like a long time, but if you get it done sooner, then awesome for you! There is a catch to this though.  A couple are considered honeymooners for a year.  This means that guests have up to one year to give the new couple a wedding gift. You in turn, have three months from when you received the gift to send out the “Thank You” card.